Tuesday, March 13, 2007

Hello, my name is not Stella and I did not get my groove back

The next woman who asks me if I met a man on my trip might get hit upside the head. I went to a screening last night at CAA and was asked the question several times. When I said no, I could see the disappointment in their faces. No one asked about the art, food, the city only about hooking up. I started to feel bad. Perhaps my trip was not "successful" because I failed to meet the man of my dreams or at least the fling of the week.

Believe me I would like to end my strike (or at least have the two sides meet at the bargaining table) and have some romance in my life. It just doesn't seem in the cards for me. I tried online dating and it was not fun. Men here are really picky and I rather be rejected to my face not via email.

I have struggle with the whole organized religion "thing" but now might be the time for me to call for some heavy duty help. That is right, I'm talking about God and Jesus. I know with everything that is going on the world the last thing these two need to focus on is my little situation but seriously I don't know what else to do. I cannot go yet another year without a single date.

10 comments:

Tracie B. said...

i yes you did get your groove, back. you had a fling with italy again and that's WAY better than any young guy.

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

Tracie B. that is a great way to look at it.

franca said...

Don't worry. Enjoy your life and someone special will come your way. That's what happened to me (and I was dateless for a VERY VERY VERY long time). And now I'm married. You're a very lovely woman and good things will come your way. I believe so. :)

gibber said...

i agree with tracie b and franca. look, all that other stuff will come when you stop stressing about it. do what makes you happy - italy, cooking, movies, hanging out with friends, going to see mom and dad, dinners with clive. make that your love and you will radiate an inner peace and happiness that will draw others to you. i think men are generally stupid, but i do think they can sense a woman who is at peace with herself.

and hey, it never hurts to chat with the G.O.D.

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

Thanks Franca and Gibber.

Rose said...

There you go again making me smile. The romantic in me thought that I would go to Italy and fall madly in love. (I did with Rome but not with a man.) When I got back the same leading question from people: "So?" (As in, so, did you meet anyone?) I've recently started to think I should finally get over my hangups about online dating and just go for it. I never thought about rejection in an email. Ugh. And finally, this past Sunday I put it out there to God, am I meant to meet someone? jejejjej

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

Rose - let me know what happens with your dating adventures. Don't be discourged by my online disasters. :)

Anonymous said...

As someone who did pull a Stella in Italy, I can tell you it was fun, but it didn't have much of an effect back here in the states--except to magnify the fact that I'm still single! But, don't worry; you're not alone. Keep praying, and he'll show up at the right time. That's what I keep telling myself, anyway. Keep up the great blogging!

Anonymous said...

I found this blog by accident and I'm so glad I did. I have recently returned from seven glorious weeks in Florence. During my time there I would receive calls from friends and family wondering if I found an Italian stallion yet. I too was inundated with "Italian men love black women" but I found that this was not the case. I started thinking there was something wrong with me. Ultimately, I let the fantasy go and ended up enjoying myself immensely! I am planning on taking a language course in Rome next summer. I want to move to Rome after I graduate from ASU. Love your blog!

nyc/caribbean ragazza said...

Thanks anons!